Peller Reveals Why He Distances Himself From Family Despite Being The Breadwinner

Nigerian digital influencer and live streamer Habeeb Hamzat, better known by his online alias Peller, has opened up about the emotional weight of carrying family responsibilities at an early age.

During a heartfelt conversation with fellow TikTok personality, Sandra Benede, the 19-year-old revealed the distress he faces as the main provider for his family — despite the fact that both his parents and older siblings are alive and well.

He shared that taking on the family’s financial burden has made him feel more like a parent than a teenager. For this reason, he now prefers to support them from a distance rather than physically being around them.

“I don’t feel mentally okay anymore. Just recently, I ended up sleeping in my car till the next morning. I’m not even 20 yet, and I’m already facing so much pressure. It’s unfair,” Peller disclosed during the talk.

He admitted that his maturity has evolved beyond the typical expectations for someone his age, stating that being around his family often leaves him emotionally drained.

“I no longer enjoy seeing my family. I just make sure they are okay by sending what they need. I’ve outgrown the mindset of living under my parents’ roof. Even with an older brother, I feel like I’m the one playing the parental role.”

Peller continued by expressing his fatigue and desperation for peace. He confessed that he’s even contemplated relocating to the U.S. just to disconnect and escape the overwhelming responsibility.

“I work hard like a parent without rest. At times, I want to run away to the United States and disappear from the online space. I’ve thought about doing it several times, but I hold back because I don’t want them to worry. I used to miss my mother a lot when I traveled as a child. Now, I don’t feel that way about anyone in my family except for Jarvis. I talk to them on the phone, but I don’t miss them.”

For deeper insights into mental health challenges faced by young adults taking on early responsibilities, visit World Health Organization – Adolescent mental health.